I've been well. I consider this phase in my life, a catch-up phase. I'm finally finished school, and now I am getting my finances and other aspects of my life in order. 


I am now itching to do my "next thing." I am getting excited about the business planning stages of my cafe. I've also wanted to learn French. I want to do more arts and crafts! I also want to revisit my accounting and tax textbooks. Write my horror movie screenplay. I want to get my FI-02. I want to save up for my house in 3 years. So much to do! I have a very balanced life right now and I am so thankful for that. I love my job and I love working for the government. I love my weekly routine. I have so many things to be thankful for that I always take for granted. God helped me create this idyllic life and I finally feel like I can enjoy it. 


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As per Priscilla's request, I will update my blog (to give her something to read while she's in this totally boring, not awesome at all, country called Korea). This blog will give its readers insight into how very unexciting my life truly is.

I had a pretty good weekend.

Friday. During work, James sends me a text telling me he is in Ottawa. I had plans with Anne, so I couldn't hang out with him for too long. Coincidentally, we ran into Yusef and his friend at the Byward Market eating Beavertails (as all tourists do!).

(L to R: Yusef, James, me, Nova) - Laurier reunion!
Afterwards, Anne and I went to the gym and then we picked up Ha to have apps at our favourite steak place in the market, Luxe. Former favourite steak place, I should say, because the quality of food had declined significantly versus our experience last year. At least I got to use my ID for a 20% discount.

(L to R: me, Anne, Ha) - taking Anne out for her birthday I missed on Labour Day Weekend

It's chaos trying to get parking in the market on a weeknight. I was lucky and someone was pulling out, so I signalled. Then this other douche steals my spot. Ha was in the passenger seat saying, "Let's go key his car!!!" I thought, OK Marilyn, this is your time to be polite and civil, and goodness will reign. I told him that was our spot, and the guy was like, "Oh, really? We didn't know," like a total asshat. I told him we were waiting for it. The other guys were like shrugging, "Sorry, there's nothing we can do." I was absolutely freaking livid on the inside but on the outside, I looked like I was going to cry. On the other side, a car was pulling out and the guys said, "Hey! We'll save this spot for you." So I had to drive all the way around and the guys were fighting off this other car who was trying to get the spot. The car gave up and I got the spot but I didn't thank those jerks because they were jerks to begin with. The rest of the night I was ranting on about these guys and how I was absolutely done with people like that. Fortunately, good company salvaged the night.

Saturday. Me and Bernadette went to our weekly BodyJam class in the morning. We went to St. Laurent for lunch. We usually go to the Zumba class after lunch, but I wanted to rest because I would be running the next day.

Sunday. Army Run day with over 22,000 participants and 5K starting at 8AM. I was really upset because the partner I was supposed to walk with told me last minute that she sold her ticket to someone else. I lucked out because another friend couldn't go and wasn't using his ticket, so I begged Ryan to do it with me because I needed support. I've never run outside and I didn't train for the run but I figured I could try running it as long as someone was with me. It was a little cold in the morning because it rained all night, but it dried up fast and it was perfect running weather. The path was past the Parliament Building and around the canal. The entire time I was telling myself, "Don't stop! You can do it!" and just praying and thanking God for even allowing me to experience this. It was very cool and I definitely want to do a run like that again with people cheering you on along the sidelines.

Dog tag - in the military, they would use these to identify the dead
Moral of the story? Fat girl ran and she did not stop! It might not seem like a big goal for others, but it definitely was for me and I feel a lot more confident in my own abilities. 

(L to R): Ryan, me after the 5K run
Work week. My week so far has been busy, but good. A lot of my co-workers were asking me how it was because they knew how nervous I was on Friday. On Monday, half of the FORDs went to The Exchange to celebrate Nancy's birthday. After work, I volunteered at the women's transition house and I was helping out this young girl with interview preparation. I was a little discouraged because she didn't want to practice and seemed very uninterested with the program booklet, but she was polite and I hope that she got something out of the session. Coincidetally that night, I did a mock interview prep session with Vanessa over Skype. 

Today was good but busy and a little frustrating because people kept making changes to these financials I've prepared and I had to stay behind for an hour getting everything ready for the meeting with the Comptroller. The morning, the previous Major came to talk to me and asked if I liked it there and if I might be interested in taking the FI-02 position when my co-worker leaves. I must admit this is not the first time I thought about that possibility. It would be a huge promotion and I would learn so much from the job. Honestly, I really hope that this would be a possibility because I love the team, I love the work, but hopefully work loves me. I've struggled a lot at my current position in the beginning because my section is so complex and the work I am doing is so different from my prior rotation, so I'm terrified that they don't see me as a competent worker who is up for the task. Hopefully, that would change with time and with experience once I finally get over this steep learning curve. Hearing that possibility from the previous Major made me feel good, but because the decision is not up to him, I am not going to hold my breath just yet. 

So, life is good. I miss home and I always will, but it would be really difficult for me to give up this dream job. I don't know where I see myself in the future but I know that as long as I have God with me at all times, I know that I'm going to be alright.

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I've finally settled into my new place. There is no cleaning that needs to be done. No heavy lifting, no unpacking, no setting up furniture, and no bloody shelf lining! Year end is over. There is a little break from the stresses of CMA. I can finally relax and enjoy my new place (and my new Poang).

Winter is over and it's time to change up some unhealthy habits. No more fast food, no more drinking. It's also time to clear my mind and start fresh. I've been trying so hard to make certain things happen and sometimes you have to just stop and let it run its own course. You can't always have your way or force something when it just isn't working. I am sick of feeling down about myself when I have nothing to feel down about. I need to have a healthy, positive attitude and it starts now.

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blahh
despondent, introverted, disgruntled is me.
i have no more positivity or cheerfulness to give - work drains that from you


dont feel healthy, only tense and stressed out without really knowing why
it all comes tumbling down, tumbling down, tumbling down...


I don't want to complain about work anymore, I just want something to happen to change the situation. Like, the dealership burning down over night.


My body aches. I think I'm going to take advantage of this WLU Health Plan scam and go to a chiropractor or get a Swedish massage or something. It's about time I started taking care of myself.



But I am sick and its made the past couple of days sucky.


This has been a very relaxing two week vacation. I spent a lot of time with my family and friends and I guess going back to school for the summer won't be all that bad. I kind of miss it (and now I can't imagine life without Waterloo to fall back on). These are my highlights, so far:
  • Went out for beer/wings with Howard, and the waitress girl asked me questions about Laurier for a while before even getting served. I kept having to pause and say, "Sorry, Howard"
  • My baby friends abso-freakin-lutely LOVE "Auntie Me-lon." I don't know what it is, but Mercedes DIDN'T want to go home because she wanted to play with me. She got so sad because her parents wouldn't let her stay! If they didn't drag her, she would've had her first overnight stay away from home
  • Working out and swimming days with Priscilla = FUN. Oh, the hot tub............. how we love it. Oh, and also church - being introduced to my new favourite pastor, Pastor Greg! I also can't wait to go to J&F this Sunday
  • Getting drunk on two glasses of wine and throwing up in my friend's car = not a pretty sight = SORRY FRIEND. I am severely restricting myself from overdrinking (the first step is admitting you have a problem)!!!
  • Party in Toronto @ Vitor's. Fun fun fun, and also sad because Seth is leaving to Chicago
  • Bombarding V-bear at work and hugging her lesbianingly in front of all her managers. We had lunch and major FUN FUN shopping day after work! 
  • Leaving Richard's house about to leave to catch a movie when my car doesn't start up. Richard has to DRIVE to my house (with me, Vanessa and Dennis also in the car. P.S. DENNIS IS BACK!!!) and PICK UP my DAD and drive him back to his place where our car is... to fix it. Talk about one of the most awkward moments of my life
  • Tania, aka. Ms. Rich treated me and Andrew to bubbletea at the new BR! The old BR totally trumps the new one. I came home and went to bed that night, got the chills and got a high degree fever and couldn't sleep a wink until like 6am. Been sick ever since
So yeah, I am 100x better except I think I'm catching a common cold now which sucks ass. Just when weather is starting to get nice again.  Four days left until school...


It's like everything was a complete mess and then all at once, everything just falls into place. I've waited a long time for this moment and only now do I start to feel like it was all worth it. All of it was for my parents but now, this is for me.



See you June 5th


Do you ever find that when one really bad thing happens to you, every bad thing seems to be dumped on you at the same time? I've had problems lately that's forced me to rethink my entire life. Everything I had planned before me was set and for once, I felt like I was on track to achieving my goal only to have it all stripped before me in a moment. 


I had the worst week possible. Insignificant things kept piling on, and I couldn't tell anyone. And then come yesterday, everything was so good. Complete 360... and I don't know what to say other than "Thank YOU" because I am truly blessed. The night before, I cried and I prayed and I cried and I think you heard me.

Now I am back, and I'm not going to let things get in my way. First thing's first, to get this thing back and running. I don't care if creeps are reading this anymore (this makes TWO), my life is too good to be weighed down by insignificant things right now.


do you like them?


everything i tell people is only a small part of the real, greater story. i let people know only up to what they need to know. you just believe the words that come out of my mouth. don't you ever ask... "why?" you are all fools for not thinking the worst of me.

that is my life.
so ashamed of it that i am a closed book trying to burn the pages behind me as the story is being written.

do people ever learn from their mistakes? i don't, but i should. no more fucking around.


So this thing has been going around facebook for a while, but since I don't write notes on facebook, I decided to do one here. 


Rules: Once you've been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with 25 random things, facts, habits, or goals about you.

1. No one knows me.


2. I am not as sad as everyone thinks I am.


3. I only drink for the sake of getting drunk. 


4. Jane and Finch, born and raised.


5. My arms are crooked and bend in weird ways. 


6. I love RPGs.


7. I had a speech impediment as a child where I couldn't pronounce "sh," "ch," "r" and "w" words.


8. I was never in a relationship that lasted more than 8 months. 


9. I like High School Musical.


10. My biggest pet peeve is being ignored.


11. I can't keep a secret for the life of me.


12. I don't know what I am doing with my life and frankly, it doesn't bother me. 


13. I eat popcorn with chopsticks. Add some cajun to that


14. I hate talking on the phone.


15. When people hurt me, I always have to do something stupid to myself. 


16. I hate how people now like How I Met Your Mother and "I'm Yours." Likewise in grade 9, I hated how people started liking anime. 


17. My life dream is to watch a Westlife concert in Dublin, Ireland.


18. I like beer now.


19. When I was born, my dad was 51.


20. I am trying to learn the phrase "Your ass looks big" in every language. 


21. Ghosts scare me. 


22. I never sleep with a mirror in front of my bed. Or my bed facing towards a window.


23. Elyna is a character I draw and write fantasy stories about. Not my alter ego. 


24. In my life I've stolen three things: 1) A skeleton pog from my childhood best friend, Michelle, 2) A Coors beer cup from Morty's, 3) The recycling bins from next door three days ago


25. I am never changing my facebook picture until I get another picture with Spider-man.




I really am taking this entire year in. I am appreciating everything and putting differences aside so that I am free to just be happy. I'm taking chances. I'm playing it by ear. I'm not just lucky, I am BLESSED


Just looking back on my life... I've made a TON of mistakes and trust me, I've paid dearly all through University because of them. I've failed. I gave up on people. I dated and kissed boys I didn't like. My procastination got me in a lot of trouble. But I've learned so much, and I've grown into someone I can be proud of. This is exactly where I want to be. 


...is watching it change while you stand idle wishing it wouldn't. Instead of spending time building your own relationships, you watch relationships form and evolve in front of you and you realize that you are no longer part of them. You are just the link that connects people together. Sometimes you hold on to people you've befriended in the past just to hold on to relationships that no longer exists because you have nobody else. And sometimes you just let those relationships die because it's just not worth the effort anymore. The world is a pretty lonely place when you find yourself watching everyone else's lives because the writer to the story of your own life has a mental block. 


for the first time in a while, the thoughts in my head are starting to affect this mock appearance i've so delicately crafted

i can't think without showing it or wanting to express it in some way

i want to talk about the funny conversations i've had with my OB group
or the interesting things that go on in and after class
or our trip to real canadian wholesale
or the marketing case presentations
or something so stupidly boring and mundane and normal
but i can't lie today




we live in a man's world.



being a woman in the business world,
heightens my insecurity as a person
puts into question my knowledge, my skills, my expertise
leads to instability where i no longer feel in control of my own future

am i destined to follow?

i'm not one to be an outright feminist,
but

i cannot ignore this issue that's so negligently addressed
why do we accept this?

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